Hair purgatory: the dreaded in-between phase
Posted April 27, 2010on:
I cut all my relaxed ends off in September 2008 and I’ve been working toward having a head full of thick, glorious healthy kinks and coils.
Now, one year and seven months into this natural hair journey and I’ve reached the dreaded in-between phase. My hair is no longer short enough for the cute styles that I was rocking like the Accidental Protective (actually, low-maintenance) style.
I was trying to wear it last week and it was a mess. I did all the things I thought would work: corkscrewing two twists instead of four, wetting my hair a little so it would have more hold… and nothing worked. It was messy and all over the place. My hair is taking longer to style and longer to dry. I can get it into an updo, which is nice.
Although my hair is now too long to do my short styles, it’s still too short to do all the cool protective styles that I would like to do. When it’s wet, it shrinks to about a third of its length and straightened I’m sure it’s full shoulder-length (length check coming this weekend along with a good hair cut).
This is reminding me very much of when I had relaxed hair and it hit that dreaded in between stage — in between ear length and chin length. It wasn’t short enough to rock a nice short Ha.lle Ber.ry like cut, but it wasn’t long enough to do a crisp bob. It was hair purgatory. It took all my strength not to cut it back into a short style because this in-between thing doesn’t EVER look good.
I’m not thinking of cutting my hair down to a TWA or anything like that. I’m happy with the pace of growth and I know probably by mid-summer I’ll be out of hair purgatory, but for now? I’m thinking about making an appointment for some kinky twists because I don’t know how to handle this hair.