Over the past few weeks, I haven’t had the energy to do much with my hair. I love taking the time to nurture my hair and create new styles and all of that. But when I was sick, I really wondered if doing my hair would have been so daunting if it was still relaxed.
No, I’m not running to the salon any time soon to slap some Optimum relaxer in my hair.
But I do wonder, if I really knew how to take care of my hair when it was relaxed — not relaxing every six weeks, wearing protective styles, etc. — would I have been so quick to go natural? Yes, I understand that my hair wouldn’t be as healthy as it is right now by the very fact that putting a chemical in your hair is going to wear it down faster than any twists that I can do.
After spending a lot of time on hair blogs and You.Tube, there are Black women who have relaxers and beautiful, strong-looking hair. I can’t believe I’m actually typing this, but I don’t necessarily believe anymore that relaxers are the devil. I’ll promote them to imps. Alas, that is another blog for another day.
The answer is I probably would have still ended up with natural hair – mainly because of my scalp problems that the relaxer was just exacerbating.
Sometimes the life of a relaxed chick looks so easy. Wash, condition, blow dry, flat iron and go about your business. For us natural chicas? Detangle (however long that takes and that can take FOREVER!), wash, condition, then take a couple of hours to style. Finally, fall asleep in a tired lump.
Don’t get me wrong – I love my natural hair, but the last eight weeks have been cruel (and my scalp is paying for it – I’ll tell you about that another day). For as great as natural hair is, there is a time trade-off that, on a regular Friday, I enjoy. But when all you want to do is crawl into bed, the very thought of going through the production can make you lie down and cry.
So ladies, what do you think? Would you ever consider relaxing your natural locks again? Especially now that you know more about healthy hair practices?